Understanding Attachment Figures & Relationship Patterns
Have you ever wondered why certain relationship situations feel bigger than they “should”?
Why does distance feel threatening, or closeness feel overwhelming?
Why does the same argument keep showing up in different forms?
Our earliest relationships, especially with caregivers or significant attachment figures, quietly shape how we experience connection, safety, and trust. Long before we understood the word “relationship,” we were learning what closeness feels like.
Attachment research began with extensive scientific studies by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. What we offer here is not a formal attachment classification or diagnosis. Instead, this assessment gently explores how your early relational experiences may still influence your current relationships.
Exploring Your Relationship Story
This process invites you to reflect on questions like:
- When you were upset as a child, what typically happened?
- Did you feel heard? Dismissed? Overwhelmed? Alone?
- How did conflict look in your home growing up?
- What did love feel like?
We look at how those early experiences may show up today in patterns such as:
- Wanting reassurance but fearing rejection
- Pulling away when emotions feel intense
- Feeling easily triggered in close relationships
- Struggling to trust consistency
- Feeling responsible for keeping the peace
This is not about labeling you.
It is about understanding your relationship blueprint.
For Couples & Families
In couples and family work, we observe how interaction patterns unfold in real time. Sometimes one person pursues while the other withdraws. Sometimes, both partners feel misunderstood. Sometimes parents react strongly to behaviors that touch their own unresolved experiences.
When we slow the process down, patterns become clearer.
Through guided questions and, when appropriate, observation across one or multiple sessions, we identify relational themes that may be rooted in earlier experiences with attachment figures.
This is an exploratory, clinically informed process, not a formal attachment classification.
Why This Matters
When you understand your relationship patterns, you gain choices.
Instead of: “I always overreact.”
You may begin to say: “This makes sense based on what I learned growing up.”
Instead of: “We just can’t communicate.”
You may discover: “We’re both protecting something deeper.”
Awareness creates space for change.
At Katy Mosaic Integrative Services & Assessments (Katy Mosaic)
At K-MISA, we help clients make sense of their relationship history in a compassionate, non-blaming way. As emotional safety increases, co-regulation becomes more possible, and over time, stronger self-regulation follows.
You are not “too much.”
You are not “too distant.”
You are responding to a story that deserves to be understood.
Let’s explore it together.